How to Become a Healing Sentence
The room where I meet my clients in person for individual work (mostly constellations) is located next to the railway. Almost every time, the train rushes past precisely when we touch on something truly important in the conversation. It’s true that when these conversations are flowing well, after a while we touch only deep and serious matters, even if we happen to burst out laughing. The atmosphere of the room, with the train occasionally rushing through us, reminds me of Tarkovsky’s Stalker - of the trains, sounds, and sensations in the film. And of how instantly I was able to identify with the main character and with the whole film when I first saw it, as a teenager.
The room where I speak with online clients (voice call, no video) overlooks a small inner courtyard: a few trees, some greenery, sky, clouds, blue, openness. Cats and birds pass through from time to time. During our conversations, I often close my eyes as well; sometimes I look out the window, toward the green or the blue, without focusing on anything specific. I turn my attention inwards, I look and turn inward, primarily toward silence, where there is ample space for the soul sounding from the other end of the line. Often, even in the physical world, I close my eyes - not only in therapeutic settings - so that I can hear the other person’s world, not just see it. Upon request, of course, at the beginning of online individual consultations I briefly turn on the camera, if someone feels they absolutely need that too. But afterward, it’s always turned off. Through hearing, I see and feel you better and more clearly; and you, by not fixing your gaze on a small glowing plastic box, can be far more present and connected to yourself. After all, everything happens within you during an individual constellation session.
To hear and feel our most intimate suffering. That point where the seed of despair lies. To touch it. And to allow something to change, to transform into something else, something new - a beautiful, fresh, life-filled shoot. To let the tension loosen, the tears flow, courageously and freely.
And quite often, from the other end of the line, crying arises. We have touched what needed to be touched. The appropriate healing sentence has arrived. Even if sometimes it is brutal, and I too need courage to say it. Becoming a sentence - the sentence through which we shift. Straightforward, addressed to you personally, here and now, in a way unique in the history of the universe. Neither more, nor less.
Of course, this uniqueness can easily be dramatized as well. We can move in the direction of feeling very special and chosen - both client and facilitator alike. From Hellinger’s books and videos we can see that many times simply saying a YES can release something truly big from great depths. A “yes” spoken in the right situation, to the right person, and at the right moment. Whether in real life or in the laboratory of the constellation’s magic field. In this case, the special quality lies precisely in the universality of the YES. The fact that something is archetypal does not mean it is stereotypical - and vice versa. All of us are chosen to live the fullness of human life. Not to get stuck anywhere, but to keep evolving, all the way through.
I warmly look forward to meeting you for individual constellations, both online and in person. 🙏 ✨ ❤️
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